Sunday, 11 January 2015

Making bad experiences your friend

HAPPY 2015 GUYS!!!

I usually start the new year by blogging about my resolutions but that routine is getting boring so I'm changing it up a little. I'm going to blog about one of the biggest lessons I learnt from 2014 and hopefully someone out there will benefit from this.

Everyone knows life isn't perfect and never will be but a lot of us still fear those little (or big) bumps we foresee ahead of us. We dread having to be upset, angry, disappointed or stressed out. They're not pleasant feelings and if not dealt the right way, it can demotivate us for a while.

2014 was an emotional roller coaster for me. All the emotions that one could possibly experience; I felt them all last year. One month it was all great and then another, BOOM, unpleasant news. That routine repeated itself a few times last year and at times, it left me emotionally drained. 

One thing I constantly reminded myself though: 'You've to move forward. Keep going.' And in order to keep going, I always had to accept my circumstances, view things from a distance and then come up with the most realistic solution. It was a trial and error process.

With a bit of time, any problems or difficult situations I faced were either minimised or went away completely. That's the best part about life—no matter how tough things are, you can get through it all with the right mindset paired with hard work. 
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We tend to fear things that forces us out of our comfort zones therefore bad experiences are always associated with something negative. Imagine how different things would be if we consider hardship as something that BENEFITS us? 

What if we view difficult experiences as something that changes us for the better? Some experiences can be bad, but it doesn't have to be bad FOR us; they could be something that makes us stronger, wiser and better prepared for similar situations in the future. 

Time is fleeting—turn every experience into something that empowers you instead of demotivating you. We can't have the good without the bad so we might as well make use of what we've got. Perspective is everything. Make everything a learning experience that brings you further in life.

You learn a lot about yourself once you've learnt to embrace challenges. You learn your strengths and weaknesses and find creative ways to deal with every difficult situation life throws at you. Not everyone deals with problems the same way so if possible have fun figuring out what works for you.

Feel PROUD every time you've overcome a hurdle in your life. So here's to another year that will hopefully strengthen us all. I for one am praying that it'll be a year of strength and recovery for Malaysians. We had a rough 2014 but as I said before, gotta keep moving on!

Saturday, 20 December 2014

Movies in bed

The weekend is heaven-sent to every working person. I've always liked my me time but now I LOVE my me time. All of a sudden, little things like not setting my alarm clock for the next day or reading a book have become pretty exhilarating experiences and I've found new ways to spend my weekend.

I used to really dislike watching films because I'm such a fidgety person. I can't sit still for more than a couple of minutes without playing with my watch, looking at my phone or looking around the room. Watching a movie in the cinema is such a struggle unless I'm in the right state of mind.

Ever since I started working, I've to say, I quite enjoy watching films. It's a lovely little escape to a fantasy land for 2 hours. Well, I've rented 2 movies from iTunes and I'm STOKED to watch them this weekend while being tucked in bed.

I'm always very outdated when it comes to movies. I only watched the last Harry Potter film about 2 years after it was released. I did hear that 12 Years A Slave was an amazing film but never got around to watching it and I'm not too sure why.

If you're wondering why I chose those 2 movies to rent, I've 2 solid reasons: Benedict Cumberbatch and Tom Hiddleston. I think both of them are adorable plus I'm a massive fan of British actors and actresses in general; I can't help but admire how talented and intelligent they are. 

Most if not all British actors are trained unlike a lot of American actors who got discovered in a bar or shopping mall somewhere so they really are well prepped for their line of work. Plus, I'm a sucker for intelligent conversations. 

Go watch actors/actresses like Keira Knightley, Emma Watson, Tom Hiddleston and Benedict Cumberbatch answer interview questions on YouTube and be blown away by their responses. They're quirky, witty and sharp in their interviews; it's so refreshing to watch. Anyway, it's movie time for me. Happy weekend everybody!

Monday, 15 December 2014

Weekly Post-it #2

I think there'll be times in your life when you feel as if you're alone. Not lonely, alone. 

You want to pursue a career that no one in your family or your circle of friends is 
particularly supportive about. It doesn't have to be a bad career choice but for 
one reason or another, they're just not giving you the kind of support you need.

You don't get along with your friends in your class or your work mates. 

People just don't understand what you're going through and you end 
up having to deal with whatever situation you're in on your own.

Or perhaps you THINK no one understands what you're doing through
and that makes you feel like you're going through something alone.

Those are just some random examples. But you know what I'm talking about; it's when no one else is on the same page as you. I've learnt to embrace these moments however rare or regular they may be because trust me, time alone is good for you. Why? Because you learn SO much about yourself.

You also get used to doing things for yourself, something a lot of people struggle with. Sometimes we get so busy we forget to self-reflect and follow trends too much. There are some people out there who can't do anything without validation from someone.

It's as if their sole purpose in life is to please others. They become spineless when life forces them to make an important decision. I'm at that point in my life where I just dive into things. Sometimes we take too much precaution and end up watching opportunities go by.

It's also ok if not many people share the same interests as you. For example, if you're the only person in your circle who's passionate about the environment or something people find unusual—don't let it throw you off. Frankly, I don't know many people who are as nerdy as me but it's all good. ;p

And then, there are people who are afraid to be alone in terms of companionship. They jump from relationship to relationship and you start to wonder if the relationship they're in is even meaningful to them. To any teen out there, relationships are better off for adults who are prepared to commit to each other.

This is my personal opinion, people are bound to disagree. Immature puppy love don't last and can be emotionally quite draining. My friends are often surprised (or creeped out) by how nonchalant I am at being single when so many young adults are frantically searching for their other halves. I suppose they find the thought of being alone quite frightening. What if they're alone forever? Gasp. Shock. Horror.

Well firstly, it helps when you're 100% entirely emotionally dependent on yourself. That means when times get hard, you're the first person to console yourself. When you're down, you're the first person to pick yourself back up.

When you've succeeded in something, you're the first person to congratulate yourself. You feel proud of yourself; the person you want to celebrate with the most is yourself because—why not?! You're the one who put in the hard work. No one can acknowledge it better than you can.

To me, relationships are when 2 complete individuals come together to form a dynamic duo—NOT a half and a half. You can't be in one if you don't know yourself, what pisses you off, YOUR goals in life, what you enjoy doing, your shortcomings, etc.

It's important to work on yourself first. Imagine already struggling with yourself and having to put up with another person's shortcomings. Noooo way, man. Ain't nobody got time for that. I believe in having friends/partners who help you with your personal growth. If they can't, it's simply not worth it.

Btw, I'm not telling anyone to live in a cave and have no friends. What I'm simply trying to say is, it's completely ok to have brief moments or even prolonged periods of time when you're not quite on the same page as everyone else.

Life is short. Make it worth it. Don't rush into things. We're blessed with one life on earth, a functioning body and intellect. Everyday presents itself with a million opportunities to learn about life and yourself. Alone time is a HUGE privilege, believe me. Seize it!

Monday, 1 December 2014

Why I Love Anne Hathaway

Like most girls my age, we were first introduced to the talented actress Anne Hathaway when she first starred in Princess Diaries. No matter how old I get that movie will always bring out the teen in me. I stumbled upon this video on YouTube and I just had to share it plus it's been a while since I last shared a video. I admire those who are gifted with a good singing voice. Envious, in fact. If I could sing, I wouldn't stop serenading people. Anyway, enjoy!

Wednesday, 19 November 2014

Some self-appreciation

Today, my hands helped me press snooze on my alarm. They helped me take ablution for prayers. They helped me eat so that I can have the energy and nutrition for a healthy body. My eyes —although they need glasses—helped me read an interesting book. They helped me navigate to the bathroom, to my workplace. Today, my untoned arms hugged my little brother. They helped me carry my bags to work. Today, my mouth helped me consume food. Being a lover of food, I enjoyed the mixture of flavours in my meals. Can you imagine how dull our meals would be had we not been able to taste? Had we not been able to feel the different textures of our food? Can you imagine not being able to feel how smooth and fluffy our beds are after a long, hard day at work? Imagine not being able to dance to  our favourite song whenever it comes up on radio, imagine not being able to HEAR music. Imagine not being able to talk, laugh or tell someone about your day because you couldn't speak. How awful it'd be to not be able to smell your favourite scent. I for one, love the smell of roses, ylang ylang and hot chocolate. 

Thing is, we may complain about how we look. We may look in the mirror and wish we had it all: a slim body, clear skin and stunning facial features. But I've learnt that a perfect body is one that is healthy and functioning well. Do you know someone who's ill? Who's bed ridden? Who's confined in the hospital? Do you know what they'd do to trade bodies with you? 

No doubt about it, We have made man and woman in the best of forms. (Surah At-Tin: 4)

Certain people can point out 'your flaws' but be grateful that your 'imperfect' body helped you live today. Not everyone has the privilege to live normally and enjoy all the things that you take for granted on a daily basis. If people can't accept how you look then they're just shallow.